Thursday, November 19, 2009
Clothes: the 80's, 90's and today!
This next video will be a trip down memory lane as to what many of us looked like in the 1980's. I made some of these mistakes (unknowingly, of course!), and these will get you int right mind set for what I write next!
My fashion fopauxes from the 80's...Off the shoulder sweaters, ruffled socks, pinned & rolled stonewashed jeans, bright neon colors, matching plastic earrings for EVERY outfit, just to name a few! Now for the hair...I did sport the HUGE curled bangs that defied gravity (thanks to the help of lots of hairspray!), but it really stunk the days that it rained and I had to wait for the bus. By the time I got to school, my previous rock hard bangs were droopy and a hot mess all day long...talk about traumatic. Take a look at this link to get a visual of what I talking about...
http://www.crazyauntpurl.com/images/blog/myhair-1989.jpg
This is not a picture of my in my heyday, but it is very similar to how I used to style the 80's bangs! What was I thinking?!?!
Another extremely popular haircut (this time from the 90's) was the "Rachel" copied from Jennifer Aniston who played Rachel Green on the hit TV show "Friends." Check out the video clip below when an avid fan of the show gets a hip, new do!
So this leads into the 20th century...what about the clothes of today? I am a teacher and here is my dress code: Khakis, button up shirt, and my Puma Shoes...I have variations, but this is the general guideline. The purpose of these clothes=Comfort, Convenient, and it's easy! As a teacher you have to have pockets...you never know what you are taking from kids throughout the day, and it's funny to see what you end up with! As a teacher, you also need sensible shoes, and Pumas are it (plus they give you cool points with your students!) http://www.footlocker.com/images/products/zoom/30040603_z.jpg
Props to those female teachers who can run around all day long with heels on, but no thanks, that is not for me! Being in the education world, we would like to consider ourselves at school to be "business casual." But what is that, really?!?! I think some staff members have taken "business casual" to a whole new "very casual" level...but I'm not the boss, just the 5th grade teacher, so who am I to judge?! The one thing we as teacher keep fighting for in our school is "Jeans on Fridays." Our director has not jumped on board yet with this idea, and here is her reasoning...the kids will respect us less if we are wearing jeans.
I beg to differ! One day last year, actually the day before winter break, we were allowed to wear jeans. I can't tell you how many kids said, "there is something different about you today, Miss Riggs..." or "You look very nice today in your jeans." I think that is the opposite of getting less respect if you ask me! And we work at a charter school where we are trying to promote college and higher education to all of our K-5th grade students. What would be better than jeans and our college alma mater sweatshirts to get those conversations between students and teachers rolling??? I think that will be my next selling point to the director the next time this Jean topics comes up!
One thing I do know about fashion today, is that many very young kids are dressed WAY better than any clothes I have in my closet! I have seen 5 year old girls in full Juicy Couture leisure suits, with Ugg boots, manicures, and hair brushed and curled just right! OMG! I think some parents of today, use their children as a pawn to "show off" their financial status when out in public. I think this because kids grow so quickly, so who in their right mind would spend that kind of cash on a hip outfit that will last for a month or two??? (I wish I had that kind of money on a teacher's salary, and then I would let you know how I would "handle" the same "problem!")
I do think in today's culture, clothes are a sign of status and show a belonging to a certain clique. The students at my school are required to wear all navy blue uniforms for many reasons. First, many of these families do not have much and starter uniforms are provided by the school for free. Second, many do not own their own washer and dryer, so having a navy blue shirt and pant is an easy load to wash at the laundry mat. Third, we want to create an even playing field for all the students. But that may have backfired on us...instead of showing status by the shirts and pants they wear, they now fight over having higher status through what shoes they wear or if their hair was just freshly done. I have never heard so much on the price of shoes in my life...but that is their platform to stand on, you either can afford to be on top, or not! We have Family Nights once a month where we invite the families of our school in for a hot meal and school activity. This is the one time that students can be at school and not in their uniforms! OOOOOWWWEEEEEE! Do some of the kids show up dressed to impress! This is another avenue to show their financial status...if you show up in your clean street clothes, you have the means to take care of yourself...if you show up in the same uniform as you wore to school, well, then you just lose a couple of cool points in the popularity game we call life.
I close with this...Holiday parties are just around the corner, and I am sure your planners are starting to fill up with them now. Clothes do say a lot about us, and maybe some put too much pressure or take too much value into the clothes on our backs, but allow me to get your mind going...What are the dress codes for the parties that you will be attending??? Will you be seeing the same people...or can you "risk" buying one new outfit and wearing it to all the holiday parties you will be attending??? Regardless, if you can wear one or have to wear many...make sure you buy one with room to "grow" to be able to fill up on party drinks, food and yummy holiday cookies! Tis the season to be jolly, right?!
Sunday, November 15, 2009
We only want the COOL toys!
Watching the "8 Minutes of Pure 1980's Commercials" was a trip down memory lane! I was born in 1981, and I am the quintessential 80's child! Bare with me while I take YOU down my memory lane! I took notes while the YouTube clip was playing...and wow, how great were those graphics back in the 80's?!
My first favorite part of the YouTube clip was the snack size candy bars. I would have loved to have invented the snack size candies...they are all the rage even still today...especially with Halloween that just happened. But how funny are the kids who want to only go to houses that give away the full size or king size candy bars! Regardless, the "Three bites and done" was a great new invention to the candy world. The next part I loved was the CALIFORNIA RAISINS! I had all the California Raisin plastic figurines and I jammed out to their jingle, "I heard it through the grapevine." I remember my brother and I watching the Raisin movies...both cartoon and the claymation videos! The third part of the the commercial clip I loved, was the Toys'R'Us jingle. As soon as I heard those opening musical notes, I sang right along! Who doesn't remember that catchy jingle?! And going to Toys'R'Us as a kid was a special treat. I remember walking up and down the isles wanting just about one of everything, but not ever being able to buy all of what I wanted. To this day, I swear I am traumatized because I wanted a Teddy Ruxbin more than ANYTHING in the world...and I never got him. I swear this kind of stuff sticks with you! I may have not gotten the Teddy Ruxbin, but I was lucky enough to have Cabbage Patch Dolls! As a kid, I guess I did not know that having a Cabbage Patch Doll was such a big deal! I hope my mother was not part of this mass chaos!
I guess the craze of Cabbage Patch Kids laid the groundwork for the craziness for Tickle Me Elmos. I guess back in the 80's, young children saw their parents acting like crazy banshees, and that gave them the green light to go crazy over the Tickle Me Elmos for their own children today!
Anyhoo, back to the Commercial Clips...GhostBusters! My brother had the Ghost mobile Station wagon car, and I used to "Borrow" it for my Barbies. The MatchBox Cars were totally awesome and we would build great tracks and car wash stations and play with them for hours! Not to mention, I have a 5th grade student today in class who uses Match Box cars to calm himself down. No joke! I found this info out from his Mother last year, and I am "borrowing" some of my brother's old match box cars for my current student to use in class now. If he starts to boil over, I can just point in the direction of where the cars are kept, and he knows to go play with them for a few minutes to help him calm down before he boils over like a volcano...talk about the past meeting up with the present! And last, but certainly not least, Charlie Brown Thanksgiving....what a classic! I showed this DVD to my students last Thanksgiving, and they have already asked to see it again...we are building traditions even at school! In one of the Toy'R'Us clips, there was a little boy on a Big Wheel...this brought back many memories for me!
Click on this link to see my All-time Favorite Childhood Toy, My Cabbage Patch Big Wheel! I used to ride around my neighborhood and keep my Pound Puppies in the basket of my big wheel...I thought I was REALLY cool! Wow, I was special! http://images.quickblogcast.com/18684-17848/bigwheel.jpg
So now, the connection to Pop Culture and our class...all kids play with toys, and have been playing with toys since the beginning of time. Kids have the creative juices to be able to turn a cardboard box, or pile of rocks into the greatest toy ever. How many times have you bought a really cool, and hip toy for a family member and he/she is more interested in the box or wrapping paper that it came in?! Crazy that we would spend the money on the gift right, but we still do. And with Black Friday right around the corner, there are already specialist making speculations on what the Hip, New, Must Have toys will be for this holiday season.
Ironically, these hip, new, must have toys find their way onto commercials during Saturday morning cartoons...the very same cartoons that kids watch religiously. Advertising companies have become master minds at hitting their target audiences. Pitch it to the kids, the kids will bug their parents until they buy it, and the parents with money will buy it to stop hearing their kids whining for the toys. The only twist in this whole master plan, it that the parents know how much their kids want a certain toy, so they have the upper hand and can get their kids to do just about anything in order to get that toy...chores, behave, get better grades...you parents know that I mean...it's a mean, mean trick!!!
These must have toys get brought into some schools either during share time, or being snuck into classrooms hidden inside of backpacks. I have seen some classrooms set up "Show & Tell" time as "Brag & Boast" time. The "rich" kids bring in their newest, flashiest toys to rub in the faces of their peers that they do not have it. It can be really sad, create jealousy and animosity, and even promote stealing...and that is why I do not set up my sharing time in this way.
For my sharing time in class, each child has a certain day that he/she is able to share with the class. This is not a surprise and he/she has the choice to share or not to share. What the kids are able to share helps us get through share time without hurting any one's feelings. Here is our criteria in class: For your share day, you can bring in: a photo, your favorite book, something found naturally in nature, or verbally tell a story about a past experience. The hard and fast rule is, if you can find the item you want to share in the toy isle of Target, than it is not OK to being to school and brag about it. This criteria has helped us have interesting share time. We have seen pics of family members alive and deceased, we have seen scrap book pages, and we have heard some incredible real life stories...all because the kids know that Toy and trinkets are not OK to share. I suggest switching up your share time criteria to something similar to our classroom, if you are finding that there has been problems with your current share time...just a thought!
Regardless of what can be shared during our share time in class, our students are growing up with fast-paced technology leading the way. Toys for kids and adults alike need to keep getting smaller, faster, more cost effective to be out on the market. No one wants the old version, every one wants to be the first to get his/her hands on the new toy that just hit shelves. And if you think I'm crazy...think about it, toy cars can not just be pushed by boys on their knees anymore, the toy cars need to drive over piles of dirt, spin, and climb walls all from a remote control...and baby dolls can't just open and close their eyes, instead they need to talk, cry, and soil their pants before a little girl will think of begging her parent(s) to buy it for her! It is a popularity contest in schools with clothes, shoes and what you eat...but there is also a hidden popularity contest with toys among children and adults. Ask yourself, what would you be willing to do (or what have you already done) to get your hands on the new, must have toy? I hope that none of us are willing to be crazy like the adults on the above Cabbage Patch clip, but who really knows just how far some one will go to get a deal and make their child (or even himself/herself) happy??? Happy shopping on Black Friday...May the best shopper win!
Sunday, November 1, 2009
How can we be comfortbale in the skin we are in?!
I have been a competitive swimmer most of my life, learning how to swim before I was out of diapers, and swimming for the Gophers for four years back when I was in college. Being in a Speedo most of my life, I have seen my fair share of girls with eating disorders. It is so sad...we burned so many calories in the water during our two hour practices, plus the weights, plus the yoga, plus the core training...not to mention going to class all day long to get an education...and some of these girls would only nibble on saltine crackers! I would not have ever been able to survive on that! Did I like being "in shape" when I was in college...as opposed to gaining the "freshman 15"...ABSOLUTELY! But it was all of the hard training that I liked so that I could eat whatever I wanted without having to worry...now that my training is over, well, that is another story. I look at pictures from training trips my swim team took to Hawaii where we were in the best shapes of our lives, but I have to know that I will not be that way again...I don't have time to spend 6-8 hours daily working out, I have a real life now...but that's hard to deal with...always coulda, shoulda, woulda when you look back at something fondly, right?!
So, if I am a 28 year old female longing to be back in shape again, what are my 5th grade students thinking? I can tell you what they are thinking...many of my 10 and 11 year girls are already on diets and will only pick at their food during lunch and skip breakfast altogether. I work at a charter school in Minneapolis where we provide our students and families will just about everything they could ever need...uniforms, breakfast, snacks, lunch, turkeys for the holidays, wish lists fulfilled so there are presents for Christmas, hot meals for Family Nights, bus and cab fare for parents to visit the school...just about anything is provided because 99% of our families live in shelters, are doubled up with others due to being kicked out of their old homes, or are in transit to find a better place to live. So our families do not have much of anything and weekend are hard for most of our children because they know they will not have their routines like at school and will not be getting 2 balanced meals like during the school week. Many of our younger kids come to school Monday famished and still half asleep from what did or did not happen over the weekend, so they devour the food they get at school on Monday's. But as you go up the grades, food has a different power over the students. I know many of my 5th graders do not have much at home, and the boys will come to school and eat up breakfasts on Monday's, but most of my girls will not even touch breakfast, regardless of what day it is! Why is that?
I overhear many conversations between my girls of "I'm on a diet" or "I'm not hungry" or "Are you really going to eat that?" and I have to step back and ask myself, why do they have that mentality when they are basically "starving" at home?! I teach African American students and many of my girls as 5th graders look and are REAL women already...a shock to me, and we already had to have the conversation at the beginning of the school year about how to take care of yourself when it is "that time of the month." Many of the mothers of my students were thankful that I paved the road to make sure my girls were comfortable being at school when they were on their period. Having said that...my girls look and sometimes act like 35 year old women. Not that I have anything against older women, but my "girls" have the bodies of women and at the age of 10 and 11, they are already feeling the pressure to be thin. And in today's society, who can blame them?
Like our reading said, "The message is clear-cut: women who are financially successful must have small bodies; education and ability are less important than physical appearance" (Fed Up Women and Food in America). But here is the ironic part of my teaching situation...the females in my student's lives, moms, grandmas, aunites, are not all that financially stable. So what gives? I can only turn to the pop culture side of body image. While my students may not be grade level in reading or math, they can certainly tell you who is at the top of the charts for music, what clothing style is in right now, and the latest movie to see. Pop culture is my students' way of life, but I think that it is hurting them. I see those "video chicks" in rappers music videos in their string bikinis shaking and gyrating their bodies over new Bentley's...Lil' Kim made a statement a few years back at the VMAs with wearing her purple nipple pasty and jump suit...and the latest dance movies have stick thin girls shaking their stuff for guys...what message is that sending my 5th grade girls??? This is the message: "YOU HAVE TO BE THIN TO FIT IN, AND IF YOU ARE NOT, SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH YOU! What in the heck kind of message is that?!
Pop culture can be cruel. Not all that long ago, pop star divas like Mariah Carey and Janet Jackson were berated for gaining a few pounds. Magazines were devoted to calling out these usually in shape females and literally poking fun at how they looked. The flip side to this, the ladies lost the weight and the same magazines that had just made fun of them, now celebrated their new bodies and gave the readers the secrets to their training and transformations. Here's the real secret: these women have the means and the money for the quick fix and can surgically "fix" the problem. But what about my students who are not financially well off, how do they fix a problem...by not having a problem at all. They might not have food at home, but they want to be part of the in crowd and their body is the tool to do that, so they have to control what goes into it...not much at all.
While reading Chapter 14 of Tooning In, I found this piece to be very shocking on page 138..."Teenage girls have the poorest diet nutrition of any group in America. Taken as a whole, their diets are deficient in many important nutrients and in total calories. We are evidently feeding refugee groups more nutritiously than we are feeding our own daughters" (Children and teens afraid to eat). How can this be?! Why in a time a place where we could feed all humans are there people in the United States still hungry, and worse, why are some Americans starving themselves? Where did this pressure come from where your pants size determined your value as a human and the smaller the number, the more valued you are?
I guess we do live and learn from our own experiences. Do I wish I cold snap my fingers and be in the shape I was back in the peak of my training in college, yes..I'd be lying to you if I said no. But why do I wish this...is it due to society's pressures to be thin? I guess I would have to say that plays a HUGE part, but overall I just wish pop culture and society would stress being healthy. And by being healthy I mean not being too over weight so that you are hurting your heart, and not too underweight so that your organs start shutting down. And the most important part of being healthy, being comfortable in the skin that you are in! But if society puts such pressure on what your "own skin" should be, then how can we ever be happy with ourselves?! It comes down to practicing what we preach!
At the end of our reading, White and Walker were paving the way for what needs to be happening in our schools. We need to promote and create safe environments for ALL sizes of students. And that goes for teachers as well...I hate when students think "all 'fat teachers' are mean, and all 'skinny teachers' are nice." How ridiculous is that?! I agree with White and Walker when they write, "Prevention needs to be the focus, not curing, if we want to control the damage wrought by eating disorders" (pg 140). We as adults in the classroom need to pave the road and show our students what healthy is and how to be OK with the body we are in right now. This is a tricky situation we are in because we too are feeling the pressures of society, and we also need to understand what morals we need to teach our students...WOW, not only do we teach students to pass the standardized tests, we also need to teach them how and why to respect their bodies as well...all for pennies to the dollar compared to what those big wigs of diet companies are making. In the words of Alanis Morsette, "Isn't it ironic, don't ya think?!" It almost feels like a losing battle we have picked to be a teacher, and it does take a special person to be an educator, and if we each make a positive difference in one life of our students, then we have made the correct decision. So on that note...who it ready to take on the world Monday morning?!